I’ll be honest, I am quite heartbroken. Losing such a wonderful girl as her, I doubt I’ll find another girl like her, especially as I’m not the going out getting pissed sort.
I don’t blame anybody, I certainly don’t blame Han, as she’s as teary as me, if not more.
It’s confusing. Every reason she gave me splitting up with her I believe needs me to feel the same way. I don’t. Long story short – she doesn’t want a relationship. As much as it hurts me to say it, I respect her decision.
But I feel so empty, I need something to fill a very huge gap – it’s hard when 80% of your social life is based in Canterbury.
I’ve been up since 5am, I’ve eaten chocolate (bollocks to lent) and listening to “Nothing Compares 2 U” by the Stereophonics (bollocks to Sinead O’Connor). It’s not a pretty sight.
I’d take Han back in a heartbeat.
Back when my head’s sorted.
Send love.
Rhys.
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Rhys Wynne, the author of this blog, is a 20 something web designer from Colwyn Bay. 
whole heaps of man love coming your way, i’ll pick up some sheep too!
Take it easy dude!
My only advice is don’t drink your way through it – trust me from someone whose tried and tried again, it doesn’t work
Loads of love winging its way from London. X
Big love from me boyo.
I would advise going to the pub with one of your mates, not to get hammered but to get things off your chest.
Lots of “guy-love” from Bath dude. I expect this’ll take a while to get over, but that’s a good thing because it shows just how happy you were and how much it meant. Keep the faith
Yup it does suck but a lot of good can come from these things – my life is so amazingly different now and other relationships have become stronger because of it. I know who my friends are and the bond I have with my family became stronger plus I lost over a stone in weight!
So always remember every cloud has a silver lining. It may not feel like it right now but it does get better – I’m living proof baby! BIG KISS
To be honest I would’ve said the opposite to Guy and Ryan. I would’ve said drink drink drink, get smashed, and be merry. But that’s my immaturity for you I guess. Sorry to hear about it. Hope you do stay mates; and considering how much you like her, I’m sure you will.
Bugger.
My advice to you is to start drinking heavily, trust me; I’m in Premed.
Not really, would advise against it in actual fact, but it’s still a good line from Animal House.
*hug*
Oh my god man, I am really sorry to hear that. It was a total shock when I read the headline. Plenty of guy hugs your way.
Oh man I am really sorry to hear that too! More random internet love going your way.
Hey Rhys
Sorry life has kicked you in the balls matey. Take whatever positive you possibly can from the relationship and forget any bad parts. And that goes for absolutely any experience in life!!
Enjoy yourself however you want to, be it with alcohol or not!!
you know my feelings, should be happy, have fun, not complicated, heavy. Lots of tomorrow left, the past has gone, the future isn’t here yet, enjoy now, now, now……and Man U may possibly win tonight
x
Don’t really know you & have only commented a few times, but I’m sorry to hear of your break-up. You and Han seemed neat together.
I would agree about steering clear of the booze mind, it does nobody any good!
Hey,
I’m really sorry things haven’t work out, I know how much you like Han. My advice (your prob sick of advice) is stay clear of the bottle it takes the pain away until you wake up and it’s there again. Sure socialise with your good friends as they will always be there for you and if you want have a beer or two.
Take your mum’s advice, it is sound, take Guy’s advice, again, it’s sound stuff and take Celeste’s advice…think when you were a kid and you get told off for doing something wrong and you can’t understand why but they tell you it’s for your own good. I do believe in fait and as Celeste says this could be for the better, sounds crazy now and a lot of crap but in a few years time you may look back and think, “yea, they were right”. Takes in Celeste’s and your mum’s comment…really do live for the day and think positive about the future. I know it’s hard now but hold this thought in your mind.
You are a lot like me, I aint a going out and getting wrecked sort but I do and have a good time with my friends when we go out now and again. I don’t go out to look for a lady I go out to be with my friends and get the famous Rhys phrase of “Good times, great memories” quoted at the end of the night. If someone takes an interest then talk to them but let time come to you, don’t rush it and go seeking – I know you won’t be doing that this weekend but think to the future. I do not know anything that happened, apart from what you have written on here so I will say if you really were meant to be then you will be together some point again, I believe that in life.
I’ll close by saying, cry your eyes out, play a song over and over on repeat, think of the memories and smile. Never ever give up, especially on your dreams.
Take care,
Z
Here if you need to talk.
Z
OK I am officially the worst friend ever! I remember to send you St David’s day greetings but totally forget your birthday. I even knew it was coming up too and told myself to make a mental note. You may slap my wrist matey! In my defence I have probably only slept at home twice this week and not working has lost me track of time, hell I forgot Ali’s birthday yesterday!! Grr.
And then I check your blog, and this. Well hun sending Sazzle love to you and you know you can talk to me any time you want!! Mwah! xx
Looking forward to reading your blog again soon, but take time out to get over this. You can do it
Relationships are a lot of hard work and most of us don’t realise that when we get into one.
I am sorry it happened, and I am sorry you are gutted. But you will heal, with or without alcohol, and you will be able to stand up a better person.
Love from Singapore in an orchid covered basket.
Hey bud. I’m sorry to hear about you both. It’s certainly shocking news. I hope you two will stay great friends though. I know how you feel though, even though I can relate to Han during times like this. It’s hard, I know. Hang in there. Things will get better, that’s a promise. That emptyness will eventually start to fill up, and the sun will come out again.
Oh, Rhys – so sorry to hear this. You and Han were so cute together and seemed to really have something. However, you, in spite of your recent birthday, are still young. There are lots of people out there and this is not the end of the world. When one door closes another opens and all that rot. But it is true. I’m looking at 45 this month and believe me, my life has never been what I expected it to be. For all of the heartbreaks and disappointments that are behind me, I feel so happy and content with how things have turned out so far. It doesn’t feel that way to you now, but one day it will – I have faith in that.
Sending lots of virtual hugs your way!
Sorry to hear that mate!
Personally I agree with those that say go out and get bladdered. Not so much for the drink but rather the going out with friends and realising that you have plenty of people around you who care!
Feel better soon,
Ian
*manly hugs*
I’m so sorry Rhys. This will sound so corny, but when you finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, you will find the experience made you stronger and that you will treasure the things you learned from the relationship.
Make sure you let your sorrow out. Cry, talk to friends. Don’t hold it in or it will rankle. I’ve never met you, of course, but you sound like an intelligent, fun, and loving person, and it won’t be long before someone in the real world sees that and wants more of it!