Comments on: I Just Don’t Know What To Do With Myself

By: Sonja

Sonja — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 07:16:33 +0000

This happens to me all the time. A large number of my friends have moved to other states because they don’t like the traffic and commuting time here in California. Also they have found that they can buy much bigger homes in the midwest with the money they get when they sell their homes here. Only a few of my friends remain here, most of my high school buddies are gone, gone, gone.

By: Ally

Ally — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 19:19:37 +0000

Small town life, unfortunately :/. A close-by group of friends was one of the things I really missed when I got my first ‘proper’ job; which was in Cardiff, so in theory (or if I’d been a bit more sociable) it should have been relatively easy to make friends my own age.

Travelling sounds like a fun idea.

By: razorhead

razorhead — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 08:03:33 +0000

Lets face it, the Bay is a dump. I couldn’t wait to get out of there fast enough and never, ever want to go back. Sadly, from time to time I’m compelled to go and see one or other members of the family and have to trawl through the scally-accented, bedsit ridden, stink-hole. I remember the place being decent, if not wonderful. Now it’s Rhyl-lite.

Fact is that after University then friends tend to drift to all corners of the country.

What do you want? The bright lights of a big town, the quiet of the country or the Welshness of wales? There are a fair number of choices of town along the north coast which could satisfy any of those.

I ended up going to Manchester, then Southampton, Bournemouth and finally back to Wales - albeit the south coast.

By: nAl

nAl — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 01:17:47 +0000

Yeah, places with aging populations suck. I live in one too.

And the older you get, the smaller your social circle gets. But the quality improves tremendously, which is a relief, I think.

By: Sibz

Sibz — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 00:43:24 +0000

I do agree with the comments so far to a point, but I think the problem isn’t so much what’s not keeping you in Colwyn Bay, but you’re image of the lives of those who arn’t there anymore. During sixth form, and then uni there are obvious ways to form reasonably large groups of friends and hence have some of those often wanting to socialise and have fun. After that, in the world of work or whatever you do, this is less the case. Maybe you work in an office with at most 10 people, of which only 1 or 2 are of a similar age, its unlikely you’ll work with more than 10 people who are within 3 years of you (and hence the most likely people you’ll want to spend free time with as you’ll have similar interests). I loved sixth form, it was brilliant, but this change and move on. Here now in Bath (after last years crazyness) I live with 2 others and in my group of friends theres 3 others. So 6 of us, and I consider that very lucky. Not to sound downbeat, but wherever you’d consider moving, to London, Manchester, France, America or wherever, things arn’t going to be the same. There’s not going to be a group of 15 or 20 of you who do stuff together. It’s just part of growing up - like hangovers, beer bellies and receding hairlines.

God I sound morbid. It’s not all doom and gloom. There’s new places to be explored and people to meet. You’ll find that the diversity of ages and backgrounds in other places exposes you to cool new things (even in uni I bet most people were very similar really). I guess the problem with staying in Colwyn Bay is that you’re less likely to make the effort to make new friends. But it’s a great place, especially now summers coming and you can appreiciate the countryside + sea. I guess the ideas of others to keep an eye out in the newspaper job sections and browse for vacancies online every week or two is a good idea so that you keep your options open, but mainly try to appreiciate the life you have and the friends you’ve got around you now. Oh, and come visit me in Bath

By: Dawn

Dawn — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 20:39:11 +0000

If Han is right, and there really is nothing except your family keeping you in CB, then why not just have a look around and see if there are any jobs going that you might fancy applying for, anywhere you like. Even abroad if that’s what takes your fancy. You can apply, and maybe get an interview. You don’t have to take it any furthe if you don’t want to, it’ll just let you see what opportunities are out there.
I know how you feel, I was like that for ages. Only difference is, I have been back in Preston for nearly 2 years now,and I have managed to re-establish myself here, and now I DO have lots of things tying me here, my hobbies, my friends and I’m buying a house with my best friend! I don’t want to leave (although still struggling to find what I really want career wise, and love life wise!!)
So, alternatively, stick it out and get out there and find some new drinking buddies, and see if things work themselves out, like they did for me.

OR….do both!!

By: Tilesey

Tilesey — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 15:22:06 +0000

And now for the relevant comment:

I thought you went home on health grounds? If that is no longer the case, why don’t you try somewhere new? There is nothing stopping you, except for debt and maybe a little bit of fear.

By: Tilesey

Tilesey — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 15:20:25 +0000

I know grammar nazis are as welcome here as a Frenchman with bad breath but…

It’s HEAR HEAR, idiot

Proof: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hear_hear

By: Celeste

Celeste — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 14:08:53 +0000

Here Here. Seriously if I didn’t have financial ties I would be gone faster than Han on a bottle of Lambrini!!!

By: Han

Han — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 12:15:41 +0000

you know my opinion on the subject. Theres nothing (other than family) holding you to colwyn bay. And like I said last night I dont see your job getting you anywhere. If I were you I’d take this chance and go travelling Like paddy said, maybe just around europe (thats what I’m gonna do) cos your not going to get another chance until you retire.